Love.

Love is a hard thing to describe. You ask a group of people, you'll get a variety of answers. (Trust me, I teach a class on Sunday nights at church and I handed out a piece of paper that said "What is love?" and I got lots of different responses). I think about 'love' a lot and I honestly have no better definition than the one God gave us in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8. No way can I say that I have acquired that kind of love because, it's WAY hard. Don't believe me? Open your bible right now to that passage and replace the word 'charity' or 'love' with your name. Keagan suffers long (or, is patient) and kind. Keagan envieth not. Keagan isn't puffed up (or, self-centered). YIKES! If I truly believe that's the way God intended for 'love' to be, let's just say I've got a lot to work on. I think I'd be right in saying that we all do. BUT that's not the point of my blog today. I want to talk about love between a man and a woman. I haven't experienced TRUE love yet, but I'm learning so much lately that I never realized before and I honestly cannot wait to feel that kind of love [not that I would ever rush it though because that is completely ignorant!].
Let's take it back to the beginning of the world. God creates the world and man. Then He decided that "It is not good that the man should be alone" [Gen. 2:18] So He creates a "help meet" for him. Aka:Eve, the 'woman'. She was created FROM Adam, FOR Adam. WHAT? The way most women act these days, it would seem as though the man is supposed to be all for the woman. But if I read that correctly, it's the other way around. There are numerous places in the bible where it tells the 'wife' what to be for the 'husband'. Now, it talks to the man too, but my focus is on the woman. She was created to help Adam. There are tons of 'women' jokes that boys like to throw in our faces about how we're supposed to cook for them and clean the house for them and blah blah blah...and I NEVER thought I would admit this but, ladies, they're kind of right! We are by no means to be a 'servant' to men, we only serve one person and that's Christ. But we are to be a "helper", right? That's why woman was created! I told this to a friend recently when I was asked for advice, 

"Show him that you care. Be extremely sweet and let him know that you are there for him. Boost his confdence every chance you get by complimenting him or something. Remember God created US for THEM. Not the other way around. We aren't to be their servants, but we are to be their help. So do everything you can to let him know (without coming out and saying it) that you are ready to try and be everything he needs you to be. If that's his best friend to talk to about everything, be it. If that's his shoulder to lean on when he needs it, be it. If that's his spiritual mentor/prayer partner, be it. If that's his "cheerleader" when he does something he feels proud of, be it." 

That's actually kind of hard for me, because anytime I've ever dated a guy I usually feel like he's supposed to be all about me and treat me right...and I'm not saying he doesn't have to do those things because I know I deserve to be treated with respect and such, but I have failed [miserably] to act the way the bible tells me to. I've been doing a ladies bible study with some of the women from my church. Most of them are older and have families of their own, so I have learned SO much from them and from the teaching we've been going through. It has truly changed my image of what I'm supposed to be for a man. I can only hope and pray that I will find the guy who I can be what he needs. Love is not a two way street. It is an uphill climb that starts as 2 separate walks towards Christ, and then eventually you end up side by side...still on that same journey towards Him.

Think about it. <3